Do you practice self-love? With Valentine’s Day coming soon, it is an important question to ask yourself, especially if you are single, looking for love or in a relationship and wondering where your relationship is heading.
Why is it important to practice self-love? What does self-love look like in practice? How would you advise a customer who is hoping to manifest self-love in their life?
What is self-love and why does self-love matter?
Self-love is self-care, self-esteem, confident and most important, knowing your true self. The knowing and holding on to those true aspects of oneself that make you…uniquely YOU. When you care about yourself, you care about what surrounds yourself… your individual world and world will reflect that expression of yourself Back at you.
The practice of self-love is the care of what you feel about yourself more than what others feel or think about you. Your inner trust in what you are doing and if it feels good, right for you…that is all that matters. At times, the best and hardest thing you can say to someone else is NO.
As someone who has allowed herself to be in abusive relationships, had low self-esteem and find truth in her understanding of her self-worth (priceless) I understand what it takes to get up and change. Hold on to that promise to myself that I am looking out for myself as no one will quite the way I do. I learned to love myself and saw my reflection of self-love return in the ways others showed me respect and support I now get from others.
Let me ask you a few questions about yourself.
Do you like where you are in your life?
Do you wake up, saying Yes or just push the snooze buttons on your life?
Do you worry what others like of you and just go along with whatever they tell you to do at your expense?
Do you looking for a love relationship or friends to validate who and what you are?
Do you take care of yourself with exercise, rest, eating well, and have balance in your life?
Are you happy?
If you have doubts or say NO to any of these questions. Let’s talk about the ways to change this quickly and easily by breaking down the reasons, blocks, and situations that got you to these points and create a better life for yourself. A life of loving yourself reflections in the expression back from life…with supportive people, career, and situations that say Yes to you. Though my Clairvoyant, Clairsentience Clairaudience Claircognizance I can assist you in finding those blocks and misperception to find the true you. That wonderful you are waiting to be fully in your life.
For example, I had a client, in his mid-20s, call me on the verge of suicide thoughts. He had just broken up with his fiance, the love of his life and was losing control of his life without her. She had blocked from her social media and told him to find someone else. She needed to focus on her life, school, and work. He had low self-esteem (abusive family situation -alcoholic parents), currently lived in his basement of his father’s house. He was doing many odd jobs without any benefits or true security in his life.
We discussed his ideal dream of life. He would work in the tech/ entertainment industry in a job with benefits and 9 to 5 hours during the week. He would live in a house with a yard, his girlfriend would be his wife, a couple of kids. He could see this so clearly. His family situation would be peaceful.
Each time we talked, I let him clear the air and then we discuss a step toward changing this. We set up some steps such as getting a journal to write out his feelings to his girlfriend in a journal, all his thoughts, and feelings he had towards her…to give it out of his system. Next, he wrote his mother and father a letter… told them all his thoughts and feelings. He wrote them and burned the letter, removing that energy out of his life. The next day, his mother called and wanted to clear the air with him.
At the same time, he was looking for a house…found it and the owner has renovated it at the time. This client got this perfect house made to his liking without the cost. About this time, he got a text from his ex…asking him how he was doing. Communication had opened up. He was through the roof.
Soon, a friend contacted him about an opening at this television/radio station looking for a tech manager. He put his resume in and is now not just the tech manager, but the operation manager with 9 to 5 hours and full benefits for a few stations in his area.
With many calls with me, He opened up his self-love, caring for the important details and steps to get his dream. His girlfriend is still busy with school and work yet she is texting and talking with him. He is patiently going with the flow, knowing it is just a matter of time until she will be back In his life again. Self-love builds your dreams into reality.
So are you ready to give yourself self-love and live your dreams? Need some assistance, contact me for a session today.
Are you honoring your soul’s journey, purpose, and joy?
Your Soul’s heart is waiting for you. It is said that the soul has all the knowledge and wisdom one will need in this human experience. And as we step out in the direction of the soul in its innocence, joy and desires, the world changes and doors open and release all the chains holding one back from fully living in abundance and amazing adventures. More than the mind can perceive.
So have you honored your soul’s journey and experienced what life is truly to be?
I have at times. The taste of freedom, of truly trusting the universe was present for me and knock down any and all obstacles out of my way. I know this was living. I didn’t need to know too far in advance the next step as it all just unfolded in front of me. I named a need or desire and boom…the step to that experience happened.
I have also experienced those times when nothing seemed right and I held myself back from living out of having a bad happening or allow something outside of me to have an impact on me. Shook me down and out of alignment. Tough lesson to not allow that to happen again. It threw me into a lack mentality, struggle and questioning why to do anything again. Then the mirrors showed up reflecting those same things. YIKES! Be aware of those around you.
I saw it and knew I was way out…needed to get into my heart and soul of living. You learn the difference and appreciate the steps getting into and what to do to stay there.
The steps of discovery are pretty simple to recognize.
First, how are you feeling? Drained, tiring, bored, careless (you just don’t care), or scared/fearful?
Any of these is depressing your soul in progress. Closing the heart of wonders and it is time to dance, move and get back on track. I mean it literally… get out of that space of laying around, vegging in front of the TV, video game, or staring into space (unless you are meditating…that is good).
Put on your shoes and go outside, take a hike or walk. Breathe fresh out. Go to places that inspire you. Move your imagination into overdrive. For me, a bookstore, coffee shop with a pad of paper to write observation…or who is around me and how I feel about this space. Any kind of observation.
Even observation the feelings you have been having and what started this downfall. This is so you acknowledge and release it completely and possibly the person/people reflecting that energies. You are respecting their journey, yet also honoring yours by letting go of them. If they want to stay as they are and seem to enjoy it… let them. It doesn’t mean anything against them. You just aren’t playing their game anymore. It is just that simple.
Other encounters of lack… Money source changing? Money dropping off? Unexpected expenses pop up? How are you responding? Calm and cool? Or freaking out? Not sure what to do?
If you are calm and cool, you know it will be handled and isn’t that big of a deal… and the funds for it will appear somehow. Even if it is out of your savings, you know that it will refill and more.
Freaking out and getting depressed about it? Well, again, you are blocking the very source. Your soul knows what to do and how to get it done quickly so you have the funds for it… Breathe, relax and allow yourself to follow the clues, signs, and intuitional hits. Do your best not to resist any ideas that pop up. Trust me, I have and again…yikes. Delays in the funds to the very last minute. Just follow through as strange and crazy it seems. Something I heard when I was in these predicaments… Don’t be afraid to spend money. Let it flow. I would tend to hold on to the money and that is like holding your breath. Not the healthiest thing to do. So I learn to spend a little bring more in. It gets the flow moving again.
In this year of mastery of self, the one and best thing you can do is honor your soul. Be still and listen within the space between your heart beat. Your Soul has the answers if you just listen and follow through. This is especially true if you wake up in the middle of the night with a repeat thought to do something. Do it or at least, write it down…and do it when you are more awake. Just keep your soul happy and flowing. It is letting your soul know you are hearing the whispers of your truth with trust. Things will magically begin to change for the better.
BE the person true to who you know yourself to be. Live authentically. The mastery is occurring at each moment you do this simple thing. Be true to YOU.
If you need assistance, please contact me for a session.
“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing that you will make one.”
2018 fast arrived and the past year released, we enter a Master (11) year releasing, reorganizing and reclaiming. In 2017, we may have found things about ourselves that surprised us in good and not so good thought-forms and/or beliefs… this was the duties of the Saturn in Sagittarius. These last three years have redefined who and what we are and open doorways to our inner truths. Accepting these may not be the easy things to perceive, yet in the simplest forms of taking control of each day, we found that those beliefs holding us back only kept us in our own discontentment. Many of us jumped into what we truly wanted to do, like the move to a new location, new career, new relationship and now the little details of completion of that dream now at hand. We are the ones co-creating our adventures.
Saturn is often referred to as the Father figure/Mother energy…taskmaster, karma balance planet, resistance and persistence present in our lives. Now Saturn is home in Capricorn, we may feel perhaps we can breathe a little easier, yet this may not be the case in this 11 year if we didn’t decide on a goal to obtain or to go for this year and for the next few years. If we felt anxiety and uncertainty about how to figure that goal out. Capricorns are known for always having a goal or figuring out the next one as they are the builders and the doers. They climb that mountain with step by step guide and reach that goal every time. In this year of 11 or 2, we are getting to know we are not alone in this adventure and we are co-creating with our inner guidance or learning to trust that guidance or intuition. Those intuitive hits or gut feelings are increasing and your allowing, while following is the key for this year to avoid the negative aspects of anxiety, feeling off and out of touch.
Being balanced is key for this year and the number(s) 2 and 11 will assist you. Focusing on your happiness, love and your goals are the ways to assure yourself to get the best out of this year ahead. Knowing you will be able to find what you need to get your goals when you trust, breathe and allow the flow of magic in your life. If you are feeling alone, you are cutting yourself off in resisting and block that magic. Recenter, meditation and reconnect with that inner vision/voice and trust what you sense. Building trust with your intuition and those whispers will help you get your goals and much more…confidence, clarity, and co-creation.
Full moon glows for us into this promise
New Year of potentials and progress
step by step, we climb this new mountain
or over that plateau looming in front of us
giving us confidence, support, and drive
trusting our feelings, with love in the lead
All is possible, All is in the knowing
We are in this together and together we can get this done
Let Love fill your heart, mind, and spirit
Your soul is in charge of this time and adventures
You may have missteps, trip, and fall
Just look up…there is a hand to help you up.
Trust with love in your inner wisdom
It is time to shine your inner brilliance.
Enjoy your journey in this magical year of 2018
and simply be in trust and in love.
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Change doesn’t feel comfortable… embrace the feeling and keep moving in that direction…
regardless of the pull (ego/resistance) to stay comfortable.
The reward of peace and the feel of you is amazing. ~jh
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Within each of us are the blessings of experiences, inner knowing wisdom and exactly how to achieve what seemingly feels impossible. The body, heart, and being are the way to the truth with trust in recognizing this simple fact. Yet doing just that can be an experience all unto itself. We may feel the need to wait for more clarity and postpone doing anything. While doing that, we lose ground with taking that much-needed action to live the dream we may desperately need now. The frustration grows and yet this is exactly what we need to push us through the breakdown into a breakthrough.
Until you truly trust yourself in directing your energy and your life the way you wish it to be it can feel like you are repressing the true rebel you intuitively know you are. It is finding your way to that rebel and accepting the wise insights and courage to bring forth that courage of the rebel.
With embracing the rebel, the creative genius is alive, magical and with synchronistic happenings in beauty and graceful ways. It is when you take those right actions, even if you aren’t 100% sure they are right. Taking the risks trusts the rebel, yet it is more than that. It aligns the body, heart and being into one focus. Power is intensified by this knowing. That inner voice and inner child join forces to release the burdens of others you may have been carrying without knowing or worse we do know and we choose to remain in misery out of some kind of obligations that others have placed on us.
Taking a step into freedom, you shake up the norm and create your own reality.
As we aren’t guaranteed tomorrow, attempting to pull the Scarlett O’Hara line (“There’s always tomorrow!”) isn’t the best advice to take. You have this one moment at a time. We can make excuses and lots of reasons not to take those adventures, yet we are only holding ourselves back out of fear and in truth, those are illusions of the mind. Your mind is not supposed to be the one in control. And if you are anxious, frustrated and still hesitating on taking those steps you know in your heart are right and having the excuse of waiting for more clarity… you are only bullshitting yourself and hurting yourself. No one can make you do anything and you are continuing the mind game.
In time, the excuses are only going to continue the dark nights of the soul until you do exactly what you wanted to do in the first. Throwing off the safety nets and need to know everything before you move forward towards your dream brings you the steps towards living that dream. It is actually taking that leap of faith that you gain that safety net as you are trusting you will be okay and using that courage, faith, and diving into the dream.
A few years ago, I ran away from home. I simply decide that I needed to get away from the overwhelming pressure and stress for a few months and just requested one thing to start me off: A place to stay. I asked a client/friend who I know had two bedroom place in this location. She said sure for a couple of weeks and after that, we would come to a financial agreement. No problem. I packed what I needed for this and left. At the end of two weeks, I knew it was time to move on, so I called another friend and asked if we could get together… he had a birthday party to go to and invited me to come along. There, I met the woman’s three dogs. All the dogs seemed to be expecting me and the last one to come to me was part Akita. I had four Akita in the past. A sign to ask if someone had a place for me to stay for awhile and the woman said she was looking for someone to take care of the dogs and do some errands for her for a work for rent situation. I said yes and moved in the next day. It worked out beautifully. I had a new place to live and it was free except for making sure the dogs were taken care of… easy as these dogs enjoyed my company. I was happy and my income increased. Things fall into place for me, meeting new friends and living a few miles away from my childhood home. I felt I was home, center for myself and with that, I knew it was time to go back home to complete the responsibilities I had waiting for me. I went home after the magic began to fade a bit. When I returned, I took on the leftover burdens created and restarted my life. Things opened up to me and I found the peace I needed from taking that leap. It may have been just a temporary break, yet I trusted what I intuited and followed my heart in each step. I found what I needed one step at a time. So happy I did it.
Following what you know is right; the Divine will guide you with ease and grace every time. Make that decision and listen to the whispers open you up to a whole new reality of possibilities. If you don’t, you are choosing to remain stuck and no one to blame but yourself. The choice is only yours…No one else. Choose with the whispers of your heart. Watch the miracles happen as you right before you.
Asking for clarity
And the mystery gets deeper
Breathe in the Magic of the twilight
Waiting for the magic to reveal…
Dusty steel blue sky blooms before me
Continuing with ‘one step will do’
Orions belt looms above me
Hearing the fountain flowing
My mind wanders
Still looking for the magic reveal.
Walking within the silence
Lit by the stars
Court and spark by sweet tunes
Outline of the moon with only a smile shining
Awe-inspired by Mother Gaia and the Universe
Infinite breath of beauty
Standing on the edge of the ethers
Beauty gives life
With a kiss of each moment
Gaining perspectives and course in trust
Blessed as I witness birth
Birth of the new day
Moon still smiles with Venus above and Mercury below
I turn around to find two owls lingering nearby
A sign of prophecy, an omen, guardian of the Silence
Dreams made real…
Truths within the in-between space
As I sit in the twilight of day and night
As Henry David Thoreau said so eloquently “Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves.”
Looking for your north and center? Shifting tides of anxiety and peace alternating in your heart these days?
In these times of redefining your center and authentic truth, the shifting of memories dance in your mind and throw you back and forth like a doll. You just want it to stop for a few minutes to regroup into that old center of true north, yet it isn’t so easy to find. Any attachment to those memories, habits and automatic responses are telling you to grow up! Why? It seem to work before. And that is the key word here… “BEFORE”! That is a word of the past, not the present now. And each moment lingers into the past as we blending the time lines and remembrance of who we truly are and where we are heading…that true north we are all seemingly looking for this mysterious north now.
We can do our meditations, yoga, deep breathing exercise, workouts for our physical bodies. What do we do for the spiritual side of us? Meditation reconnect us to the Silence of Infinity, the Voids of Creation, The Nothingness of Truth and detachment from the human reality all know as the chaos ensuing. So what is the best thing we can do these days? Laugh. Love. Let Go. With Trust.
Trust in yourself and the inner GPS that knows the way home to the new paradigm of truth. We are heading home if you resonate in this article.
We come to understand the lessons along the way quicker, seeing the different perspectives of possibilities; Taking on the responsibilities of our choices. The altering of your mindset turns in circles as you find your new grounding post and relearn your inner door of YOU is golden with the confidence, connection, and clarity. Isn’t that what we are truly wanting to experience?
I find myself while doing grounding breathing exercises seeing specks of golden wisdom filling me with the strength, insights and connection to move forward. Each of those golden nuggets are little pieces of the true essence of me returning to realign myself to that north. The feelings of the re-balancing of the individual self (human-side) with the essence self (spiritual/energetic-side).
Through a few different methodologies, I am clearing the attachment to the past parts that held my back from this balance of Truth. Slowly finding that true north of all I truly am with this human experience and knowing it all is just a blink of an eye in this abstract Illusion of time, place and perceptions.
Trust that if you are feeling angry, irritated, and unsure…You are finding yourself going to the right path for you. Resisting or clinging to what doesn’t feel right only delays your abundances of all that you be. More breathing, less thinking helps. Connecting to your heart sounds like a cliché… yet it is truth and always will be center and allows the soul to endeavor on your right path. Having judgments about yourself or others isn’t quicken your alignment, getting impatience doesn’t help either. You will feel the push me-pull me on the edge feeling, That is when your just about home. Anxiety and upheaval lets you know you are growing and going well. The shifts will always happening, make peace with the realignment process…enjoy it as it is bring you more of what you wish to experience and removing the length of the contrasting views.
Contact me if you need some assistance.
Some tools and other options for you:
EFT or Emotional Freedom Technique. There are many great videos on Youtube for this. Brad Yates does a great job. Or you can take a course or class online. Udemy.com is another option
Reading or Listening to positive books or videos. Abraham Hicks is available through the website, YouTube and Books.
Journal Writing has take out the energy out of the situation. Writing a letter to the person if there is a person you are upset with, including yourself. Write out all your feelings and your perspectives. You don’t need to send it to them. The energy of your words will get to them. Carolyn Riker has a journalling writing course
Intense passions intermingle
within the soul
wanting to break free from the chains
yet knowing it is all just perception
the immense passions intertwined
within the heart
wanting to express the beauty within
the dreams and desires hidden from view.
dancing with the energies
breathe and know the freedom is real
breathe and know the genius in you is real
breathe and know the creative ideas take form
dancing with your being
create and share your genius now
having no regrets when you do…
only if you don’t. ~jh
“Words to the Wise. Listen to the whispers and release the knowing.
Nothing is what is seems in the moment.” ~jh
In these times of shifts of energies, that feeling of pushing forward regardless of the outcome, the ego may push back as the old familiar comfort zone is being moved in a new shape or form. Breathe.
I am doing many new things and many old things in new ways and the familiar voice of reason comes out and attempts to stop me with sudden fatigue or distractions that may be of importance. There is always something to do in the mundane way…clean out this draw or make sure this is taken care of, taking your focus off of the new and trying to distract you from that push to grow.
Another tactic of this reasonable voice is overthinking the whole process of the new, yet you know better… to keep it simple. One step at a time, taking a moment to enjoy the process of pushing through that fear of the unfamiliar and unknown. Breathe.
Past lessons may also creep up on you and remind you of past humiliations or failures. Remember the lessons, give thanks for them and push ahead. Knowing you will always have some kind of lesson along the way as this in one of the very reason you are here…to lesson and experience.
And let’s not forget the inner voice saying you don’t know enough and do more research or classes on what to do; Procrastination in doubts of your abilities.
Yet there is a calmer, stable voice inside you, whispering these wonderful ideas and solutions that you hear, yet hesitate to trust. Could it be that simple? Simply, go do it and figure it out?
Most of us have these moments and there are many ways to clear these moments of anxiety and uncertainty. Here are a few ideas to help you push yourself over the edge and share your creative brilliance:
Having faith and meditate.
Write in your journal about all your fears to get them out in the open.
Do Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) tapping on the specific feeling(s) move the energy in positive ways…go for a walk in nature, dance, yoga for example.
Free associative writing with the fear or doubt its self or with the inner child.
Deal with the emotions through breathing exercises and acknowledge the feeling. Allowing to flow through you without attaching to it or the memories popping up.
Release through crying. A good cry gets it out of you and acknowledging it.
Talk to a trusted friend or professional who know how to hold the space by listening. Picking a person who thinks they know what you know to do can make it worse, not better. Choose wisely with who.
Acupuncture and a good massage can assistant you in releasing the tension.
Having an orgasm also can relieve the tension and allow you to move forward.
Read positive words in blogs or listen to vlogs. Just don’t use this as an excuse not to get something done.
Make a list of steps. Just do a step a day and allow yourself to get it done at the pace you are comfortable. A lesson of patience, persistence, and progress are always good to embrace as you share your brilliance.
Here are some resources for you to consider to help you forward.
EFT basic – https://youtu.be/1wG2FA4vfLQ
other ways to clear: Christine Sheldon clearing your frequency https://youtu.be/CuM678WXs0c
Marisa Peers https://youtu.be/IKeaAbM2kJg