Distracted by Kindness: Choosing Positivity Amidst Struggle

Distracted by Kindness: Choosing Positivity Amidst Struggle

Choosing Kindness and Compassion in Tumultuous Times

Days of Autumn quickly pass by, and the nip of the holidays of thanks and cheers is in the air. Busy schedules and time seemingly flying by, or is it just life?  The world of changes is changing fast and not so much what I wish to see. Wars and anger… or time for us all to stand up for what we do want. What we believe in, like Free speech, respect, kindness, and understanding our uniqueness, adds to this incredible world. We are all equal in the grand scheme of things. Here to learn those very things. I am not sure why it is so difficult to learn this lesson.

Each person we meet is a reflection of us. So why not heal that part of us so wounded deep instead of harming the other? That is what the season of Scorpio is about—the time of healing, mending, and waking up to the beauty and grace within us and giving thanks for that healing, mending, and waking up. For the people who helped us along the way. Stress is resisting, and if you resist it, it will persist. Breathe deeply and shake it all off, dear people.

And with saying that, this sidenote: Thank you, Taylor Swift, for your incredible talent and for distracting the world with your brilliance, kindness, beauty, and Grace. You show that women can do it and do it beautifully—blessings to you and yours. I appreciate you for all you be and do.

Most days, I say or write what I am grateful for. Each breath, for good health, physically and mentally, the kindness in my life, friends, and family, and the good, the bad, and the ugly, I created in some way in my life for the lessons. Accept and allow. Thank you.

It is funny to me, though it is who and what I love, to learn, to be curious, and to ask questions with my observation. I am taking classes in tech at the age of 60 and don’t see myself stopping this learning.  It is like retiring; I don’t see myself doing that…just another adventure. Why get re-tired? Does that make sense?

Through this reflection of self and seeing the world in this state, I wonder why I am here at this amazing time. What do I reflect on this Earth? Ask yourself where you are still angry, upset, or wounded. Forgive yourself and those around you on this week of thanks. Life is more than the great sales on Black Friday or even before. It is more than the shopping. It is that kindness, beauty, and Grace. Be it, share it, and thank you for reading my moment of observation and rambling.

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The Trap of Remembering: Go to the Present Moment

The Trap of Remembering: Go to the Present Moment

The Trap of Remembering Better Times: Finding Happiness in the Present Moment

In today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to get caught up in the nostalgia of “better times.” We often find ourselves reminiscing and longing for more serene and less chaotic moments. However, dwelling on the past can trap us in a cycle of dissatisfaction and prevent us from fully experiencing the present. This article explores the concept of focusing on present happiness and breaking free from the allure of nostalgia. By shifting our perspective and asking reflective questions, we can discover the keys to genuine happiness.

Table of Contents

  1. Introduction
  2. The Temptation of Nostalgia
  3. Living in the Present Moment
  4. Asking the Right Questions
    • What Makes You Happy?
    • Defining Your Happiness
    • Pursuing Happiness vs. Being Happy
  5. Challenges in Embracing Happiness
    • The Complexity of Simplicity
    • Societal Influences on Happiness
    • Self-Worth and Joy
  6. Looking Within for Answers
    • Reflections of Inner Reality
    • Receiving Actual Value
    • Embracing True Worthiness
  7. Shifting Thought Patterns
    • Changing Perspectives
    • Overcoming Fear and Attraction
  8. The Changing Landscape of Communities
    • A Glimpse of the Past
    • The Fragmented Present
    • Seeds of Change
  9. Alteration of Perception
    • Wayne Dyer’s Wisdom
    • Co-Creating Your Experience
    • Transforming Reality through Perspective
  10. Conclusion
  11. Frequently Asked Questions

Introduction

In a world of constant change and challenges, it’s natural to yearn for simpler and more harmonious times. However, dwelling on these memories can lead to a disconnection from the present and hinder our ability to find happiness. This article delves into the dynamics of nostalgia and offers insights into how to escape its clutches.

The Temptation of Nostalgia

Remembering better times can be enticing, especially when life’s difficulties seem overwhelming. The allure lies in the comfort of familiarity and the belief that past moments were somehow more enjoyable or stress-free. However, this mindset can prevent us from fully engaging with the present, robbing us of the joy in the here and now.

Living in the Present Moment

To find true happiness, focusing on the present moment is crucial. The current reality holds opportunities for growth, connection, and contentment. By redirecting our attention from the past to the present, we open ourselves up to experiencing life more fully and authentically.

Asking the Right Questions

What Makes You Happy?

Before pursuing happiness, it’s essential to understand what genuinely brings you joy. Whether it’s simple pleasures, meaningful relationships, or personal achievements, identifying these sources of happiness empowers you to prioritize them. Defining Your Happiness. Happiness is a deeply personal experience that varies from person to person. It’s essential to define what happiness feels like and looks like to you rather than relying on external standards or comparisons.

Pursuing Happiness vs. Being Happy. The pursuit of happiness can sometimes overshadow the act of actually being happy. It’s essential to balance setting goals and finding contentment in the present moment.

Challenges in Embracing Happiness and The Complexity of Simplicity

Ironically, our pursuit of happiness can complicate our lives. Simplifying our priorities and focusing on what truly matters can lead to a more fulfilling and joyful existence. Societal Influences on Happiness are many. Society often imposes standards of success and happiness that might not align with our authentic desires. Escaping these pressures requires self-awareness and a commitment to defining happiness on our terms.

Self-Worth and Joy. 

Our sense of self-worth is closely tied to our ability to experience joy. Exploring and addressing underlying feelings of unworthiness can pave the way for genuine happiness through understanding and affirming that you are more than enough. When we come to appreciate the experiences, they are just an experience without any meaning unless we give them some internal value.

Looking Within for Answers by Reflections of Inner Reality

Our external experiences mirror our internal reality. Taking time to introspect and understand our emotions can lead to a more harmonious external world. Opening our hearts to receive value and appreciation is essential for nurturing happiness. Recognizing our worthiness of positivity and joy can transform our outlook. We are embracing True Worthiness. Feeling worthy of happiness is a prerequisite for experiencing it fully. Letting go of self-doubt and embracing our inherent value can unlock a world of contentment.

Shifting Thought Patterns and Changing Perspectives

As Wayne Dyer eloquently said, “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” Shifting our perspectives and choosing to see the positive aspects of life can lead to a happier existence. Our thoughts and fears can influence what we attract into our lives. Consciously focusing on positivity and letting go of fear can bring positive changes.
Wayne Dyer’s insight underscores the power of perception. We can create a more positive and fulfilling reality by altering how we view the world.

Co-Creating Your Experience

We play an active role in shaping our experiences. Taking responsibility for our perceptions and choices empowers us to create the happiness we seek. We are transforming reality through perspective. As we co-create our experiences, we can transform our reality by changing our perspective. We can find true happiness by focusing on the positive and embracing the present.

Conclusion
In a world that constantly beckons us to reminisce about “better times,” it’s crucial to recognize the trap of dwelling in the past. Happiness is not solely found in nostalgia but in embracing the present moment positively. By asking reflective questions, fostering self-worth, and altering our perceptions, we can break free from the chains of the past and experience genuine happiness.

Frequently Asked Questions
  1. Is it wrong to remember the past? Remembering the past is not bad, but excessively dwelling on it can prevent you from fully experiencing the present and finding happiness in the here and now.
  2. How can I find happiness in the present moment? Focus on what brings you joy today, whether simple pleasures, meaningful interactions, or personal achievements. Practice mindfulness to stay grounded in the present.
  3. Why do societal standards affect our happiness? Societal norms often emphasize external markers of success, which may not align with our true desires. Defining happiness on your terms rather than conforming to others’ expectations is essential.
  4. How can I overcome feelings of unworthiness? Start by acknowledging your value and worthiness of happiness. Engage in self-care practices and seek support from loved ones or professionals to address underlying feelings of unworthiness.
  5. Can changing my perspective make a difference? Yes, changing your perspective can significantly impact your experience. By focusing on the positive aspects of life and shifting away from negative thought patterns, you can create a more joyful reality.

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Invitation to Life Purpose

Invitation to Life Purpose

I was invited to write my thoughts on life purpose, purpose of life, or the meaning of life on the site,
Goodquestion.com.

 These are my wisdom on the subject. enjoy. ~jh.

 Introduction

Jennifer Hillman is an American Intuitive Motivational Life Coach, Published Poet/Writer, and Energy Practitioner certified in Master Reiki, NLP, and Hypnosis Therapies. She writes on the spiritual experience as a human and the insights within the current waves of self-expression. She has a radio show/podcast, Abstract Illusions Radio, available on YouTube and BBSRadio. Her site is JenniferHillman.com

Your view on what is Purpose of Life

Life’s Purpose is similar to the Purpose of Life, yet different in specific ways. Life purpose is a calling or an agreement your soul made for you to achieve during this lifetime. The Purpose of Life is the experiences through self-expression, self-love, and choices made.

The Purpose of Life evolves through creativity, self-expression, and experiences. This explanation is what I have come to understand through the ebb and flow of my Life’s experiences. I gained insights through my artistic side and explored the different genres within the expressions. My experiences opened me to that creative/artistic side, mainly writing through poetry. It opened worlds within me to gain a broad understanding of why I was here.

Each has its meditative wonderings of releasing the energies within the imagination. Each experience has value to the impact from and to the individual soul. Through your experiences, you discover more about yourself: your fears, joys, desires, and your calling(s). Yes, you can have more than one calling in a lifetime, especially these accelerated energies.

Through my experiences of self-expression, I found my calling. The calling to aid others with finding what makes their Heart skip a beat gives them extreme joy, focus, and drive to share this passion.

The Purpose of Life is to get curious and experience different situations in discovering your true Heart’s desire and follow your intuition or inner voice through the maze before you. Making choices in what direction to go next can be messy along the way. It is not always nice and tidy along the way, yet acceptance of the responsibility of your choice is part of the game we play. We find our way to the source of our dreams, the Heart.

You know when you resonate with the Heart as your Heart is open and full of joy. Being with the Heart aids you to get out of stagnation, clarity, and be integrity. We are becoming kind, honest, and receptive to sharing the natural state of love. Then you will know or have a strong pulse of what your calling(s) is for you in your lifetime.

Quotes  

“Within a moment of silence, all is known that needs to be known. Within a moment of breath, all of life surrounds you…from the stars, the sun, the trees, and all of humanity. Within a moment of a smile, love embraces the universe and beyond. It only takes a moment of being open to the wisdom, the beauty, and the Grace. “— Jennifer Hillman

“Whisper sweetly, the tenderness of the moment. Let the love teach you the true meaning and passion of this experience we share. With gratitude and reverence for the blessings and miracles I receive and witness, my heart still beats as the little things die to be reborn with a greater joy for life in each moment.” — Jennifer Hillman

 Here are the three books of poetry available

“Embracing Souls: Poetry of the Dance”

“Words of the Heart”

“Thirty, thirty Poems in thirty days.”

Videos (If you have any, optional) https://www.youtube.com/user/AbstractIllusionR

Recording of Jennifer Hillman’s Radio Show, Abstract Illusions Radio (AIR)

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